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The Vagina Massage
Information in General
The method given here for Vagina Massage is
the ancient Indian way of massaging the vagina called as Yoni
(pronounced as YO-NEE) in Sanskrit. Also consider as “Sacred Space" or
"Sacred Temple. In Tantra sex ritual, the Yoni is seen from a
perspective of love and respect. As a tradition to give respect to women
The aim of the vagina/Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman
(the receiver) to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and
experience much pleasure from her Yoni. This massage is also a way to
treat a woman from sexual blocks, traumas or from fear of sex. Her
partner (the giver) enjoy a new experience of being of service and
witnessing a very different arena of Tantra sex. The Yoni Massage can
also be used as a form of safer sex by wearing some gloves in hand and
is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy .
The aim of the Yoni massage is not orgasm is not to bring a climax.
Orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome by product of the entire ritual.
The aim is simply to pleasure and massage the Yoni/vagina. From this
perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and not have to worry
about achieving something. When orgasm does occur it is usually more
expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Orgasm is allowed to happen
or not happen depending on your way of doing which you learn by
experience.
In this massage the giver has nothing to gain, he is just at the donors
end, just allowing the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into
herself afterwards. Of course, other sexual activity may follow but it
should be entirely the receiver's choice. This perspective will build
greater intimacy and trust, and will greatly broaden your sexual
horizons.
STARTING THE PROCESS
Taking a shower is always helpful as it relaxes both the receiver and
giver. A quiet space is desirable with pleasing music, red colored
candles, pillows, etc., or whatever makes the participants relax and feel
safe. Allow yourself enough time and do not hurry through the process. It
is also recommended if you have soft silk mattresses, and white curtains,
with a dim red light.
Go to the bathroom before beginning the massage. The best results will
occur when the bowels and bladder are empty and you will avoid the
unnecessary experience of interrupting the massage to go to the bathroom.
Keep the genitals clean washed carefully with a soft soap. And the giver
has to be careful that his nails has to be properly trimmed.
Cuddle with your partner by hugging, holding, eye gazing (looking into
each other's eyes for an extended time), or whatever brings you to a place
of safety and relaxation.
RITUAL
Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows
under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner
(giver). Place a pillow, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart
with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will
also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage. It is
necessary that the vagina has to be clean shaved, but there should not be
too long hairs.
The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers' legs. The giver may
wish to sit on a pillow or cushion. This position allows full access to
the Yoni and other parts of the body.
Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver
and receiver should remember to keep breathing deeply, slowly and with
relaxation during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the
receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or takes shallower
breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating, is very important here. Do
not try to control the breath or take very long pauses between breaths.
Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to get the
receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching the Yoni.
Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound of
the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers
the outside of the Yoni. Even you can use some good cream also, but oils
are the best lubricator.
Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some
time here and do not rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage. Gently
squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and
down the entire length of each lip. Do the same thing to the inner lips of
the Yoni/vagina. Take your time.
The receiver can massage her own breasts or may just relax and continue
breathing deeply. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each
other's eyes as much as possible. The receiver can tell the giver if the
pressure, speed, depth, etc., needs to be increased or decreased. Limit
your speaking and focus on the pleasurable sensations. (It is my
experience that too much talking gets one out of their feelings and
diminishes the effects.)
Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles.
Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage
and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very
aroused but continue to encourage her to just relax and breathe.
Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand
into the Yoni In rituals and Tantra sex there is a specific reason of
using the right hand, as it has to do with the polarity in Tantra. Very
gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni/ vagina with this
finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary
the depth, speed and pressure. Remember, this is a massage and you're
nurturing and relaxing the Yoni.
With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the
middle finger in a "come here" gesture or crook back towards the palm. You
will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the
clitoris. This is the Sacred spot as says Tantra Sex. Your partner may
feel as if they have to urinate or it may be painful or pleasurable. Again
vary the pressure, speed and pattern of the movement. You can move side to
side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger You can also
insert the finger that's between your middle finger and pinky. Check with
your partner first before sticking two fingers into them. Most women
should have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation from two
fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the
right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well.
This is just an optional part; some women do not like this, just take
permission from your partner and then insert your one finger by using some
lubrication into her anus. Use the finger which you are not going to
insert her Yoni. And be very gentle. The ritual prefers to use the little
finger in her anus.
Your left which has nothing to do at this time can be used to massage the
breasts, abdomen, or clitoris if you massage the clitoris it's usually
best to use your thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of your hand
resting on and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left
hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. I do not recommend
using your left hand to touch your own genitals because it may take your
focus off the receiver. Remember, this massage is for her pleasure and
much of the benefit comes from not only the physical stimulation but the
intent as well.
Continue massaging, trying different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep
breathing and looking into each other's eyes. The receiver may have
powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep deep breathing and be
gentle. Many women have been sexually abused and need to be healed. A
giving, loving and patient partner can be of great value to her.
If she has an orgasm, keep her deep breathing, and continue massaging if
she wants. More orgasms may occur each gaining in intensity. In Tantra
this is called "riding the wave." Many women can learn how to be
multi-orgasmic with the Yoni Massage and a very patient partner.
Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very slowly, gently, and with
respect, remove your hands. Allow her to just lay there and enjoy the
afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as
well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be
greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.
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